My whole life I’ve been a worrier! When I was younger, I would worry about my friends… I would worry about my boyfriends… I would worry about my coworkers… I would worry just to WORRY! This post is very personal to me and one that in the past would’ve been out of my comfort zone, but I know that the mass majority of people struggle with similar situation therefore I wanted to share what I have found to help with my overall wellbeing and mental health. These 6 essentials, I can truly say, have made me a better mother, wife, business owner and friend! I hope my 6 essentials to a happier life can help some of you as well.
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Making Time for ‘ME’ Time – After having children, it can be easy to lose sight of yourself!! Even before kids, I don’t really think I knew what healthy ME time was. I spent years of just living my life but not really being ‘there’ for most of it, not really being present! I now feel I have the ‘tools’ to live a happy and fulfilling life. This all began by making sure I took an hour a day for ‘ME’! Whether it’s to improve your mind through knowledge/learning, practicing mindfulness, getting in a great workout at the gym/yoga, or meeting a girlfriend for coffee now I make sure I look after me first because it makes me a better parent, wife, friend and business owner.
Feed the Brain – Read a book! Take that course you have always wanted take! Listen to a great Podcast!
This is one place that for many years I struggled. I was never somebody who enjoyed ‘sitting’, so the thought of sitting and reading a book, unless I was on a beach somewhere, did not appeal to me. Don’t get me wrong, in the past I’ve read a book or two but not ones that really help me feel like I have achieve any personal growth or knowledge. Over the last few years I’ve started implementing audiobooks and podcasts into my life every single morning! I wake up, take 10 minutes to meditate, pour my morning coffee and begin my day by listening to something that will inspire me and set me off on a positive path in the morning. I like to switch up the topics every time I finish a book from parenting, to self-help or mindfulness, to financial, blogging/business books, just about anything that I feel sets me up to have a good day! I usually listen to these while I’m getting ready in the morning and apply my make up or am doing my hair. A few of my favourite books are The Code to the Extraordinary Mind, 10% Happier and Rising Strong I also love to follow amazing and inspiring people like, Rachel Hollis, Brene Brown, Dr. Jody Carrington and Jenna Kutcher
Fuel your Body. Nutrition is the most basic place to start looking after yourself and probably one of the most important! We all have control over what we put in our bodies! I don’t just mean the types of foods but also the quantities. In the past, I’ve always tried to eat healthy, being aware of the foods that I put in my body and trying to steer clear of anything processed. Somehow along that path, I felt the need to eliminate as much fat as possible. This was a HUGE mistake and one that I didn’t realize was affecting me as much as it was until I corrected it.
I started counting Macros almost 3 years ago now and have never looked back. In a quick description, Macros is basically a consistent consumption of fats, carbohydrates and proteins everyday! Using a Macros calculator, you can calculate the appropriate number of each component based on your body weight and activity level. You can also find a good nutrition coach who can help you find your correct numbers and help keep you on track over the months. My nutrition coach was Vital Nutrition and Performance and one I would definitely recommend !
Macros just makes sense for my body! Rather than eating like I was 300 pounds one day and then like I was 90 pounds the next, I would control my food intake and consistently eat the same amount every day! In a short time of feeding my body the same amounts of fats, carbs and protein every day, my metabolism stabilized and didn’t try to fix my over or under eating.
After consistently eating this way for a while, not only did I feel better but my memory and mood improved as well as my capacity to take on the day! The additional fat, good fats, in my diet was probably what I noticed the most, I felt like my brain was happy again! I wouldn’t forget as many things and I just felt more satisfied and had more energy through the day.
Find Time for fitness. No. Matter. What. I remember reading an article once that said the number one way to change your mental state is with exercise! I couldn’t agree with this more! Some mornings I wake up and feel almost a bit foggy and cranky if I am being completely honest. If I can take one hour and get a run in or hit the gym, I am a different person! I come out with a clear head and a positive attitude! Joining a gym or fitness class with regular members can also result in new friendships and lots of laughs everyday with like minded people! I think the whole experience is just good for the soul!
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Set Goals, Even Small Ones. This has never been a strong point for me, I have always been a bit of a ‘fly by the seat of my pants’ kinda gal! I am more of a ‘passion’ follower, than a ‘goal’ setter but over the years I have tried to implement more goal setting into my life.
Our family starts every year in January by writing down our goals for the year and reviewing them at the years end to see how we did. Our goals are then hung on the inside door of our pantry so we can see them and review them every time we open the door. We started our children doing this as well when they were just three years old. They set goals as simple as learning to ride a bike or learning to read. It’s always such a great confidence building moment when they realize they have actually achieved their goal at the years end. My husband and I feel that same confidence boost when we hit our goals. The lists consists of personal goals, business goals and even home improvement goals. Taking the time once a month to review goals will keep you on track and help to achieve things you can only imagine!
Mindfulness and Meditation. This is probably the newest component I have added to my everyday life but I think its become one of the most important, if not the most important piece! Mental heath is such a huge issue for so many, me included over the years, and it is not something to many people talk about. Taking 10-15 minutes a day to meditate and preform mindfulness practice a game changer and something so many people don’t do. I look at it as the equivalent to going to the gym but for the mind. I started using the Headspace App on my phone almost two years ago and have never looked back. It’s like carrying a pocket therapist around with you! I now love to start my day with meditation and by writing my intentions for the day down. I also write out 3 things I am thankful for in my Thankfulness App and then through out the day I get reminders on my phone of those things! It helps to keep your positive mindset even on bad days and it really is amazing how much a little bit of ‘quietness’ does for a person!
One more tip for all of you parents out there is to do the same for you children. Every morning before my kids head off to school, I ask them both to tell me one thing they love about themselves and one thing they are grateful for. It doesn’t matter what they say back, its the process of taking a moment to think of something positive that is the point of the exercise.
I truly hope that each and every one of you take something away from my 6 essentials to a happier life! As I said before, this is not a typical post for me and a bit out of my comfort zone but I do feel that these practices have made HUGE improvements in my life and can do the same for some of you. Please let me know if you have any other practices that you do in your life that have been ‘game changers’ ! Have a wonderful day sweet ones and thank you for reading along!!
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